The 6 human needs

[Aaron.Leung]

I want to introduce to you some basics that everyone has, regardless if they're single, married, christian, jewish, muslim, male, female, etc. These are the 6 human needs that everyone has. This basic understanding will allow us to understand why we and others do the things that they do.

The 6 human needs are:

1. Certainty - Everyone requires a sense of certainty in their life, may it be the house over their heads, the food they eat, love from a spouse, the job they have in order to function.

2. Uncertainty / Variety - While people need certainty to function, we also need some uncertainty to spice up our lives, to give juice to what we do.

3. Significance - Everyone needs to feel important.

4. Love and Connection - Everyone needs to feel loved and connected with other people.

5. Growth - Everything either grows or it dies. In order for us to feel alive, we must feel like we are growing.

6. Contribution - In order to our lives means something, we have to extend beyond ourselves.

These 6 human needs everyone has in one form or another. Some people value certain needs over others. The first 4 human needs are needs of the personality, while the last 2 are the needs of the spirit.

When 2 or more needs are met, it becomes a habit. When 3-6 needs a met, it becomes an addiction. These needs can either move a person for better or for worse.

I'll provide 2 extreme examples, so you can understand how this works. The first will be a new loving couple, while the 2nd will be a terrorist. This is not to say being destructive is ok, this example is just to give a better insight on why they do what they do.

The loving couple

* Certainty is met by knowing that they will love each other
* Uncertainty / variety is met by both people being sweet and suprising each other
* Significance is met by making each other feel like they are the most important person in the world
* Love and Connection is met by the actions of intimate love and sharing the connection they have for each other
* Growth is being met by each of them wanting to be a better person for each other
* Contribution is being met by contributing their love to help the other person grow

The Terrorist

* Certainty is met by knowing the destruction they are able to create
* Uncertainty is met by the high risk situation they are in. A bomb could go off early, or something could go wrong. Who knows what could happen next?
* Significance is being met by the force of power they have from the weapons they posses
* Love and Connection is met if their actions are for their people or community, even at the expense of their own life
* Growth is met, by becoming more than who they were to carry out the terrible acts
* Contribution is met by having a sense they are contributing to their people or society by taking revenge on those who have harmed them

As you can see, people take actions in order to fill their needs for the better or worse. Be sure to understand how this works. As a leader in our society it is a tremendous tool on how to gain perspective and understanding to other people's lives. This information can then be used to help someone you care about an insight which then can be used to find a solution towards the real source of the problem, not the fake problem that lies at the surface. The 6 human needs will be referenced back on a regular basis as many strategies are built upon it.

[Leanne]

So true. I found the Ultimate Relationship Program covers this most comprehensively of all Tony's programs. I recommend it to everyone who will listen.

[Aaron.Leung]

I was going over that ultimate relationship program on cd's while I was in melbourne and on the drive back to Sydney. I highly recommend it too for people are in a relationship, or who aren't yet in a relationship.

I can speak from a guys perspective that this program offers fundamentals that so many men aren't aware about. I coach people who have relationship problems and after going through this program, as a practical psychologist, you can see what's issues they're having like night and day.

For those who want more information about the program, it's a set of DVD's and CDs. From memory there's 6 DVDs and 12 CDs that span over a 10 day program + 1 bonus day. You'll learn in detail:

* The 6 human needs
* State management
* Masculine and feminine energy
* 4 levels of relationships
* Creating presence (v.important for men)
* Regaining Trust (again v.important for men)

There's lots more but they're just a few I can remember off the top of my head. Again, I highly recommend it, Thank you Leanne for helping bring up this valuable tool to people's attention