Tag: Tony Robbins
The 6 Human Needs
by Aaron Leung on Feb.15, 2009, under Psychology
I want to introduce to you some basics that everyone has, regardless if they’re single, married, christian, jewish, muslim, male, female, etc. These are the 6 human needs that everyone has. This basic understanding will allow us to understand why we and others do the things that they do.
The 6 human needs are:
- Certainty – Everyone requires a sense of certainty in their life, may it be the house over their heads, the food they eat, love from a spouse, the job they have in order to function.
- Uncertainty / Variety – While people need certainty to function, we also need some uncertainty to spice up our lives, to give juice to what we do.
- Significance - Everyone needs to feel important.
- Love and Connection – Everyone needs to feel loved and connected with other people.
- Growth – Everything either grows or it dies. In order for us to feel alive, we must feel like we are growing.
- Contribution – In order to our lives means something, we have to extend beyond ourselves.
These 6 human needs everyone has in one form or another. Some people value certain needs over others. The first 4 human needs are needs of the personality, while the last 2 are the needs of the spirit.
When 2 or more needs are met, it becomes a habit. When 3-6 needs a met, it becomes an addiction. These needs can either move a person for better or for worse.
I’ll provide 2 extreme examples, so you can understand how this works. The first will be a new loving couple, while the 2nd will be a terrorist. This is not to say being destructive is ok, this example is just to give a better insight on why they do what they do.
The loving couple
- Certainty is met by knowing that they will love each other
- Uncertainty / variety is met by both people being sweet and suprising each other
- Significance is met by making each other feel like they are the most important person in the world
- Love and Connection is met by the actions of intimate love and sharing the connection they have for each other
- Growth is being met by each of them wanting to be a better person for each other
- Contribution is being met by contributing their love to help the other person grow
The Terrorist
- Certainty is met by knowing the destruction they are able to create
- Uncertainty is met by the high risk situation they are in. A bomb could go off early, or something could go wrong. Who knows what could happen next?
- Significance is being met by the force of power they have from the weapons they posses
- Love and Connection is met if their actions are for their people or community, even at the expense of their own life
- Growth is met, by becoming more than who they were to carry out the terrible acts
- Contribution is met by having a sense they are contributing to their people or society by taking revenge on those who have harmed them
As you can see, people take actions in order to fill their needs for the better or worse. Be sure to understand how this works. As a leader in our society it is a tremendous tool on how to gain perspective and understanding to other people’s lives. This information can then be used to help someone you care about an insight which then can be used to find a solution towards the real source of the problem, not the fake problem that lies at the surface. The 6 human needs will be referenced back on a regular basis as many strategies are built upon it.
God bless and live with PASSION!
Cheers,
Aaron Leung
Preparing for Anthony Robbins – Date with Destiny (DWD)
by Aaron Leung on Feb.15, 2009, under Anthony Robbins
- Date with Destiny – Anthony Robbins
With Date with Destiny (DWD) coming upon us quickly, it’s worth the time to reflect on what areas on our lives we’d like to improve. By having the end result in mind, it will stack the odds in our favour in succeeding.
What’s an area where you’re not succeeding at the level you desire? Chances are, you’ll have some conflicting values.
I’m going to take you through an exercise I developed which has helped me tremendously. I call it Transforming Your Values. A lot of it is based on Anthony Robbin’s technology where I’ve taken it and put my own spin to add value. You can download a workbook I created to help you through the exercise from here: Right Click and Save As – 480kb
First thing to do is to write down 5 areas in your life you value. There may be more you’d like to add, but let’s start off with 5 in this example.
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Relationships
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Health and Fitness
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Wealth
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Career / Mission
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Spirituality
Once you have these listed out, lets look at it with the 6 human needs in mind. We’ll be honest about this and score them where they currently are, and where we want them to be. For information on the 6 human needs, visit – HERE.
For example, Joe Blogs might have the following for relationships with his spouse
Current scores for relationships
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Certainty – 4
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Variety – 2
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Significance – 3
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Connection and Love – 3
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Growth – 1
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Contribution – 1
Desired scores for relationships
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Certainty – 10
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Variety – 9
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Significance – 8
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Connection and Love – 10
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Growth – 10
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Contribution – 10
Once you have these, ask yourself the following questions.
In order for certainty to be a 10, what to has to happen?
In order for Variety to be a 9, what to has to happen?
In order for Significance to be a 8, what to has to happen?
In order for Connection and Love to be a 10, what to has to happen?
In order for Growth to be a 10, what to has to happen?
In order for Contribution to be a 10, what to has to happen?
You’ll start writing out your rules. For some this may be a pleasant surprise, or it may be shocking. For most people, you’ll find out that some of these rules are set up in a way that makes it very difficult or even impossible for you to win the game of life. It’ll become obvious in order for you to continue your growth, these rules MUST change.
Once this has been written down, start brain storming ways of redefining your rules that allows you to win the game more often and empowers you.
For example, one of Joe Blogs rules in order to feel certain about being wealthy is to have $50 million dollars in his bank account and driving a Lamborghini Gallaro LP560-4. Joe Blogs may redefine the rule so he can feel wealthy NOW by changing it to, being certain his family loves him no matter what making him one of the wealthiest people in the world. This shift flows into other areas in his life where he can focus on how abundantly wealthy his life is, rather than what he doesn’t have.
Complete this exercise with the other areas in your life. It will give you a greater awareness of why you do the things you do, why you may excel in some areas, while being deficient in other areas. Take note of the rules in one area which may also conflict with another area.
I’ve given you a lot at this stage, but there’s going to be some people who will have trouble taking this from an intellectual thought into something that’s real. In order to get the best effect of this, I’ll leave the transformation part to Anthony Robbins, not that I can’t do it, but being immersed in a peak state environment, it will have a larger impact and maximise your results.
By completing this exercise before attending DWD, you’ll be able to supercharge your results at the end of DWD, which will send you into orbit. Make sure you bring your workbook to Date with Destiny to refer back to them.
If you’re thinking of attending Date with Destiny in April 18th – 23rd 2009 on the Gold Coast and you haven’t purchased your ticket yet, get your ticket now. As we move closer towards the date, prices have known to increase as tickets run out. To purchase your Anthony
Robbins – Date with Destiny (DWD) tickets click – HERE.
Other preparation you’ll need to take are:
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Make time to attend the event. If you need to take annual leave, book ahead in advance to ensure you don’t miss out.
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Make travel arrangements if you’re coming from interstate. Be sure to book in early. The later this is left, the lower the chances are of finding the travel arrangements you desire. By booking ahead you can generally make a saving.
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Book your DWD accommodation. This is very simular booking travel arrangements. If you want to share accommodation, we’ve created a thread in facebook to help accommodate communications. To register your interest, click – HERE.
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Bring your workbook from this exercise
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Prepare to play FULL OUT!
I’d love to hear your feedback in the mean time. Otherwise I’ll see you everyone there 
P.S. Be sure to add me to your facebook friends. I can be found at HERE.
God Bless and live with PASSION!
Cheers,
Aaron Leung
